Are you caught in the comparison trap?

God told us to make our bodies pure temples for the Holy Spirit to dwell in. This means we are to have a healthy lifestyle and abstain from sins of the flesh that harm our bodies. But He did not tell us to obsess with our appearance to the point that what we look like to others becomes our top priority and we begin comparing ourselves with models, celebrities, and even our friends. Yes, we are to give our best to God. But my best and your best is the not the same. So, why do we compare ourselves to each other, or anyone else?

God wants our best; the best within the means He has blessed us with. The finest name brand apparel is not required to worship and serve Him. Think about Jesus’ ministry here on earth. He lived from place to place; he and his earthly father Joseph were carpenters by trade. They were not of the elites or the town royalty. Their clothes were simple, working clothes.

And what about the disciples? Jesus called them right from their occupations to leave all their possessions and follow Him. We don’t know all their occupations, but many had been fishermen at some point in their life.

God made us different. Each beautifully unique. We are fearfully and wonderfully made. The things we do not like about ourselves are beauty marks to our heavenly Father, even birth defects. God does not make mistakes. He uses our physical weaknesses to nurture our emotional strengths.

The struggle with insecurity and comparison is a real problem for all ages, especially women. This is not just a teenage phase. The struggle is always triggered by something different for each one of us, but the source is always the same: Satan. He knows our weak spots, and plays on them by planting ideas of unworthiness, shame, ugliness, indignity, and embarrassment in our heads.  How can we silence Satan’s whispers?

  1. Speak and pray Psalm 139:14 several times a day: “I will praise thee; for I am fearfullyand wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.”
  2. Pray for strength through the Holy Spirit to silence Satan. Pray to recognize his ways before his attack and counterattack with prayer and praise to Jesus.
  3. Filter what our eyes see, and our ears hear throughout our days. If you feel more insecure after being on social media, or watching TV, or being around a certain group of people, scale back or stop your time in that situation.
  4. Consider your circle. The other friends in our lives should be friends who build each other up, not tear each other down or instigate ideals of ‘measuring up’ to certain looks or social statuses.
  5. Stay in God’s word. Think on things that are good (Phil 4:8).

“I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.” – Psalm 139:14


  1. Lisa

    Thank you for the reminder., sweet friend. We should look in a mirror, not a magnifying glass.

    • mbcdixon18

      Thank you for your love and support, my friend. Love and blessings to you.